Thank you dstbrat!
I HATE that "Future Delta" stuff, too. True enough, we'd all like to see our daughter go the right way (hee hee), BUT-- we shouldn't put it in their minds that, just because their mommy or aunt or big sister is a Delta, they are guaranteed membership. This is one of the issues with SOME legacies today. Some of 'em come to the table with mediocre grades, little-to-no leadership and community service, and limited knowledge about the org as a whole. Then, their mom or whomever gets upset if they don't make it, so they call and raise heck. If we want our daughters or sisters (or sons and brothers, if you're in a frat) to be down, then we need to prepare them by instilling in them the value of hard work, academic achievement, leadership involvement, and steady public service. AND, we should also give them the freedom to make their own decision about sorority or fraternity life. What if she doesn't want to be a Delta?
What if she doesn't want to be in a sorority AT ALL? I think it's a bad move to insist that our children do exactly as we did/do when it comes to decisions they'll make as adults. Sure, it's fun to play around and joke about what they'd better do or not do, but we need to make sure they know that "dem jess jokes" --ultimately we should let them know that we respect their decision. To buy a child "Future Delta" gear is to make them feel as though they'd be doing something wrong if they DON'T become a Delta. I have a classmate who's dad, grandad, AND older brother were all Kappas. When something happened to keep him from being a Kappa, he killed himself. In his suicide letter, he stated that he'd rather be dead than to see the disappointment on their faces when they found out he wasn't gonna be in the frat. It just doesn't get any sadder than that.
When I was in high school, I was SO mad
at my mom for not letting me be a DeltTeen! She said she didn't want me to get involved in it and later change my mind in college (and pursue an org other than DST--Who me?), only to have that stand in my way. I am very appreciate of her for that.
Anyway, let me get back to work.
And I'm Out!
the411
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