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My Pastor says that a man without a head is a freak. When he said this, he was saying that, if a man doesn't have God at the head of his life, he has no head and is a freak. When the word "obey" is used in the context of marriage, it doesn't mean the women has to do everything her husband tell her. i.e. bark like a dog, bring him breakfast in bed everyday, NO! The words obey and submission have been taken out of context so often. Marriage is not a cure for lust or just a practicality, but a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church. If we love Christ, we will submit our lives to Him. We know He loves us and wants only the best for us. Well, this is what is meant by obeying and submitting in a marriage. Just as Christ submitted His will to the father, husbands and wives should submit to one another. Submitting and obeying doesn't mean being a doormat. For the wife, it means she should be willing to follow her husband's leadership in Christ. For the husband, it means for him to put aside his own interests to care for his wife. If both spouses have a strong relationship with Christ, then this should not be a problem. I hope I didn't come off as preachy and my purpose was not to offend anyone, but to answer the question.