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I think I would overlook her statement about why she's at rush (only for XYZ and KLP). It's one thing for a freshman who has no information or impression of all the groups....it's another thing if a junior who has been through rush before says it. Obviously she's been around campus and knows people, etc. Unless it was said in a very rude and condescending way, I wouldn't worry about it. At least you know where her interests lie.
As far as her other statement about how you are conducting rush, I would have to consider the context and way she said it. Things get lost in translation from one person to another. This woman may be really looking forward to being in a sorority and has already thought about how to contribute to the group (i.e. rush ideas). Or she could have been really judgemental and become quite bossy and controlling if she's made the rush director. Don't know. Think about the other aspects of her personality...is she like this all the time? Or could this have been a statement from a woman who wanted to prove to a member that she would really contribute to the group (and hopefully get a bid)?
Then again, the friend (VP of recruitment) may have actually started the conversation with her in order to see what a rushee thought. I wouldn't necessarily hold that one statement against her...so don't focus on that only when doing membership selection. We all jump in and say the wrong things and step on toes....but we learn from these mistakes (when someone tells us we've crossed the line) and a sorority is a great place to learn stuff like that.
Good Luck!
PsychTau
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