I don't doubt that you believe that. But I would not date any man who felt God touched him to be celibate. Absolutely not. Not because of the no-sex part, but because I would be uncomfortable with someone who felt that level of religious fervor. Extremely uncomfortable.
When you get down to it, I like sex. I don't feel that having sex or not reflects on my relationship to a higher power, reflects on the amount of respect people should or should not give me, or to any cultural/social norms about how a woman or man
should act. I have sex with my partner when I feel comfortable with them, and it is an important part of our relationship, a part of our intimacy and bonding. I don't think everyone has to feel the way I do, but that's just how I feel. In regards to preventing disease, proper use of a condom can do a lot, and you should be comfortable discussing your past with your partner before you become intimately involved anyway. If you don't trust what they're telling you you shouldn't be having sex.
A man who I had an emotional connection to who wanted to deny a sense of physical intimacy would not be someone I would get involved with. It's like men who don't kiss- very offputting. I would think that they were hiding some part of themselves from me or involved elsewhere.
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Originally posted by delph998
Okay Lovelyivy...I kinda  understand why you would have that viewpoint.
But I truly believe that God can touch a male to be celibate. I have a friend who hasn't had sex in three years because he isn't in a relationship. And he says that when he does get in a relationship, he wants to wait a while before he DOES have sex. There are men who are concerned about STDs and HIV as well, and I appreciate when men have that precaution in today's times.
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