[honeychile]

Your best bet is to talk to the Greek Life Advisor (Panhel Advisor, whatever that person is called on your campus) and get a feel for what goes on at your campus. We're great for advice, but we're not at your school, and don't know exactly what happens there - which is why people ask.

As for forced silence, that's just between Potential New Members (PNMs) and members of the sororities during Recruitment week, outside of the parties. Obviously, you wouldn't be rude if you saw a sister on campus, but you couldn't have a conversation with her as she'd be accused of possibly trying to sway your decision. You certainly don't become Marcel Marceaux for a week or so!