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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Hmmm, maybe we both have different opinions as to what "submission" is. Submission(in the biblical sense) has nothing to do with inferiority.
The husband (speaking of a man after Christ's heart) would already know humilty and the benefit of compromise. These are attributes that are already apart of who he is. He would already know to talk over and discuss issues with his wife.
I just don't buy into secular society's view of women "having and doing it all". So that could be another reason why I have no problem with it.
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Well HK, I don't buy into the secular society's view of women "having and doing it all" either. I have seen (with my own two eyes) women family members break down (literally) after trying to play the superwoman role. For me, wanting to have an active say in my marriage and taking on the lead with respect to certain things is something that I would want to do. It has nothing to do with me wanting to have or do it all - to me, taking the lead on certain things is not doing it all.
I, personally, don't want to do it all. For me, the issue is really about a wife having to be *granted permission* to lead in certain areas that she may be proficient in and may not mind having the last word in. Toward the goal of efficiency, it makes most sense to me to have the last decision rest in the hands of the most proficient person - not the person with the male genitalia. That seems arbitrary to me. That's my whole point - trying to understand what seems like an *arbitrary* allocation of power to me. At the end of the day, it seems that it may just go back to what each person believes per his/her religion. It's just that I am not bound to any single religion (I prefer to focus on having a one-on-one spiritual connection with the Higher Being as I am led by the Higher Being as opposed to being based in a single religion) and enjoy exploring ideas.
Like I noted with Love_Spell, we are not arguing. I simply needed to discuss this issue with someone who actually believes that the man should have the final say in order to have a more well-rounded view on the matter. Talking to my girlfriends won't help b/c they believe as I do.
Thanks for the convo,
SC