This is good advice. Kind of what i meant with my shorthand response.
People are very fragile in the beginning of any relationship, whether its friendship or romance. You didn't have enough history together for him to feel comfortable with you rejecting him, which is probably how he felt. Especially, if as Jules said, he was feeling bad that day . . like overtired.
Let it go a day and chat early in the day and all should be fine.
Also, you could have deflected him by offering to do something near you that wasn't in your apartment. He could have picked you up at your apartment and you could have hit a movie or a diner or something.
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Originally posted by AXJules
I don't think there's anything wrong with being cautious and trusting your instincts. But a really good thing someone once taught me is to put yourself in the other person's shoes: I am SO not saying you did this, but a lot of times the way we say things is not the way we intend them to come out. I refuse to listen to voicemails from myself b/c I sound like a snotty bitch (other ppl have told me this, too.) Even if I'm talking about, like, rainbows and moonbeams, it sounds harsh.
SOOOOOOOOOOOO, it's possible you were condescending or a lil too dramatic and made him feel bad, unintentionally. Or it's possible that you just caught him on a bad day and he freaked out like a PMSing girl.
Regardless, you can either chill out together another time and act like it didn't happen, or you can stop seeing him. If something like this freaks you out, it's only going to happen more when you guys spend more time together.
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