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Originally posted by James
Ok so what is your approach to dating someone with a kid(s)?
Let me give you two scenarios:
1. You see someone you are interested in that is also interested in you and pursuing . . . you find out they have a kid . . . what are you thinking? Do you give them a shot or eliminate them early?
2. You got to know someone and really like them . . they really like you . . . and then you find out baout the kid thing . . but you already really like them . . what do you do?
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James-
Bro, I don't know if you're going through this or if its a friend of yours...but I can help.
Initially when you meet someone whom you find hot/sexy/attractive, whatever you want to call it, you don't really picture a kid in their life. Fact is dude, we're getting older. That said, there's gonna be chicks our age who have kids. By age 25 the chicks that are really hot and who are single have either been married at least once, had a kid, or they're a b!tch. Its one of the three man. Hot chicks that dont have kids, have never been married and are not b!tches....they don't stay single long. A lot of men say to hell with the kid and go find a younger chick, mainly little 20,21,22 yr olds.
About 5 months ago I met this chick, this was before I started dating my current GF. Her name is Amanda. She is really hot, I'm talking about 112lbs, light blonde hair that is straight as a board that went down to the middle of her back and has pretty blue eyes. I met her out with some of my friends, she was with 3 other girls. After talking to all her friends, to make her jealous, I went over to her and threw some game out at her. I figured she was in college since all her friends went to my school. It turns out shes a lawyer and works for a well known firm in my city. She was a little short for my likings, about 5'2, but I still gave her a chance. We got to talking and I found out that she was 27 yrs old, that turned me on even more since I have a thing for chicks older than me. Next thing I know we're taking Jaegar Bombs like they're sex on the beach shots, got totally phucked up. At the end of the night I had her take my number down and told her to call me and let me know she got home ok. I didnt want to screw schit up with her by hanging around and talking to her. I can't count the times I mess some pu$$y up by talking to a girl for more than a couple of minutes, just keep it short and sweet. She called me when she got home and I told her to go to bed and I would call her the next afternoon.
The following day I called Amanda, we talked and talked and talked. I don't think I've spent an hour on the phone with a chick since middle school days. It was wierd. I admit, I wanted to go out on a date with her after talking to her for a long time. She was an awesome chick. That night we went out on a date to this fondue place that way we'd have a couple of hours to chill, drink wine and eat. While at dinner, after a huge bottle of wine, we start talking about all sorts of things. Suddenly she busts out with, " Oh, I wanted to let you know I have a daughter and she's 16 months old." I grabbed the bottle of wine and started pouring myself a glass while asking her "Are you serious?" As I'm pouring the bottle of wine she also throws in "And she's bi-racial" I dropped the bottle of wine on the table and made this huge mess on the table. The waiter comes over, I'm apologizing, peopel are looking at us like like we're a bunch of idiots, she's asking me if I'm ok and all I could say was "the bottle was slippery". The rest of the night went ok, I stayed away from asking any questions about the kid but the whole time I was talking to her for the rest of the night all I could think about was how I could never explain something like that to my family. After dinner I took her home and we had sex. It was damn good. I mean I lit her up, tore her a$$ slap out of the frame. The next morning she had to go pick her daughter up from the daddy's house. I gave her a kiss and said goodbye. I never called her again and avoided all her calls.
The fact that she had a kid didnt really phase me that much, it was the fact that she had a bi-racial kid that freaked me out. That was just too much for me to handle. My take on it all was, the kid situation mattered...but her being as hot as she was and her occupation made it easier for me to handle. Its just I started thinking about it all and I had this aweful picture of me being with her while she was fixing the kids dred locks. After having that thought I made sure I cut her off immediately. There's no hot chick in the world that could make me want to date her seriously enough with her having a bi-racial kid. As for your situation, I think you have to look at everything as a whole and think of later on down the road and the responsibilities that will come with dating a chick with a kid. I've had friends that dated chicks with kids...none of them ever worked out. My advice, go find a younger chick who you can run that doesnt have so much baggage. A little while later I found lady cashmoney and things couldn't be better.
Good Luck!
Cash