Thanks CT4 for digging this up. I don't think I've seen this thread before myself.
But SummerChild, I did want to answer your question from the other thread, so ere is the Cliffnote version
since much of the detail is already presented here.
The wife should "submit" unto the husband. Is that a bad thing? No, because God commands the husband to love and treat his wife just as Christ loves and treats the church (us).
If the husband has the "heart of Christ" he would do NOTHING intentionlly to his wife that would cause her harm, pain, heartache, or strife (just as Christ does nothing to INTENTIONALLY bring us harm or to see us hurt). The husband would love his wife unconditionally (just as Christ loves us unconditionally).
This is why God stresses that we (husband and wife) should be "equally yoked".
I hope this helps...