This really isn't a reply, it is more of a question that i have that is related to this subject. Here is my situation and question.
I was approached a while ago about becoming a sweetheart. Not knowing anything about any of this, I started asking the few greek ladies that i had the opportunity of getting to know (ladies that i respected and whose opinion i valued), outside of the ones that are in my family. They told me they didn't see anything wrong with it and that some of them had been sweets; although none were the same one as me. Time went by and these same ladies seemingly cut off all lines of communication with me. I would see them and i guess that i would become invisible, making me feel as if i had done something wrong. I have read the other post about sweethearts on this message board and understand why your organization or any other would look down on the things they did. However, in our defense, the group of girls that i was with, never even came that close to being sorrity-like. We didn't have a show or anything like that. The only way that anyone knew about us was if they saw us with them - even that wasn't a common thing. Our Big Brothers really did treat us like their little sisters. There was no disrespect going on anywhere. We supported the events that they had and they support the events that our various non-related organizations had.
I guess that i am asking if anyone can clarify what it is that would be seen as wrong with that?
I do want to become a member of this organization one day, and would like to make sure that i haven't made life too hard for myself because of this.
Thank you