[twinstars]

Amazinglagirl wrote: "in reality, "if" he likes you, it really wasn't enough initially for him to pursue YOU...

Of course, there are always exceptions...but, as my mom always said "if he likes you, he'll call"."

That's how I think of it.

If a guy isn't into me enough to be a little assertive in the beginning, then I usually don't waste my time. I will flirt till the cows come home, but I wouldn't ask a guy out unless we were already going on dates.

I'm sure some guys like being asked out, because it requires little/no effort on their part and they know right off the bat that the girl is interested and willing.

In the beginning of a relationship I'd rather he see me as someone to be pursued, someone a little mysterious, rather than as someone who's chasing after him.

This seems to be working for me, and I spare myself the drama and disappointment of trying to force relationships with guys who don't have a strong interest in dating me. And in the relationships I've observed among my friends, it rarely works out when the girl is chasing after an initially less-interested guy.