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Originally posted by Munchkin03
Basically, those who wait are typically more conservative...
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Yeah...I was thinking about that too. Maybe the original question about how long you "should" wait depends on what you are looking for. As we can see from some of the guys' posts (and some of the girls too....don't want to stereotype)...for some it is just about how soon is it okay to orgasm with a new girl/guy. And for some the meaning behind the act indicates a more permanent intimacy or desire.
So really the answer of "how long to wait" laregly depends on what you want from it. IMO, the guy is not likely to get MORE serious about you because you give him sex in the first month. As some of these guys pointed out, he might get less interested in putting any effort into the relationship if you DON'T have sex as soon as he wants it, but then I think you would pretty much have your answer about what he's looking for. And if that's cool with you, then go for it. But it's pretty important that you're both on the same page about what sex means to you and to the relationship.
For the guys who have a g/f (or are just dating a girl) and don't understand why she wants to wait...it is time to clue in a little to your girl. The girls who choose to wait longer generally do that because the act of having sex is not a casual one to her...and she probably knows that it will mean more to HER than it does to YOU. (And so then you should really be thankful that those girls DON'T do it or else you would have a hysterical stalker ex-girlfriend on your hands when you stomp on her heart by announcing that you're ready to move on the the next girl. LOL)
To these girls where sex is more than just a weekend pasttime (whether it is or not to you), the argument that she should "let" her b/f have casual sex with others if she is not putting out is totally ridiculous. I mean, if she doesn't look at sex as something casual and holds it to be something INTIMATE,....then why would she be okay with her b/f sharing that intimacy with someone else???
The issue to me is not so much in morality as it is in considering the perspective of your significant other and what it is you are looking for. And if you don't see eye to eye on it...you probably just aren't a good match. No need to make her feel guilty or belittled for having different thoughts about the meaning of the act.