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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
There are as many different stories as there are people on this planet. Women and men feel pressure from their families, culture, society, faith, their circle of friends, and themselves to accomplish certain things at certain points in their lives. Not everyone can fulfill these expectation. Not everyone wants to. I think the key is respecting the right for people to choose the life that is right for them. Not everyone wants to get married or have children. Not everyone wants to juggle a career and motherhood. There is nothing wrong with that. I heard Maria Shriver say, "You can have it all, just not at the same time." I agree with that. Decide what life you want, be flexible, and don't judge other people for their choices.
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Well said! And on that note - it seems there is some major cultural generalizations going on in this thread. What happens to one person of a culture cannot be applied to everyone in that culture. The tradition of the immigrants, race or faith cultures (or anyone else for that matter) in my neck of the woods may look totally different in someone elses. Same kind of people, but different traditions. Perhaps this should be discussed in another thread.
Somewhere back there someone mentioned that kids are shuttled from activity to activity. This occurs for both SAH and working moms. I know some people that have the kids scheduled from the time they get up until the time they go to bed. Music, art, girl scouts, dance, gymnastics, soccer - the list goes on and on. There is so much more available to children now. During the summer, I could have them in a camp every week - possibly two or three per week so much is offered here. I choose not to do that because I personally think children need some down time.
I allow my children to choose two activities per year - currently we are doing cheerleading and girl scouts. My two older girls are in the same activities, same time. I can see a time though when they will all have different interests, and different time frames. That would be three children with two things per week. Lots of time in the car. Hopefully as time progresses, they will find something they truly love and stay with that activity. I feel I should give them an opportunity to explore their interests. I won't deny them the chance to be involved with something they truly want even if it means I'm driving all over the place! I'd like to hear from the Carnation nation about how she does it all with her numerous young ones!