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Originally posted by txtiger
how does is make me look desperate to want to protect a sister?
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It's more than wanting to protect a sister. Think about it this way. Would you do the same thing if she weren't your sister? Have you ever told the next girl to "beware" before? Chances are probably not.
By telling her, you'll only cause her to get upset, and to possibly get your ex upset with you - hense making you
look desperate.
To give you a little senario...
A girl in our sorority graduated and was engaged to this guy that she dated forever...like 5 years. He broke it off and started dating a new member in our chapter immediately. This new member didn't know the alum and thus didn't know the situation. It put a lot of us "older" members in a bad position, but what were we to do? And instead of the alum telling this new member what was what, we let her learn for herself what kind of guy he was. Because ultimately he ended up black balling himself from the rest of the chapter....and no one had to tell her about his previous relationship to our alum sister!