Taualumna, thanks for the info..that explains the questioning about being a "daughter."
Does your US relative know for SURE that she cannot join the DAR? Unless EVERY branch of her family came to the US after the Revolutionary War, chances are that she does have a relation that qualifies. It just takes WORK to find the connections. See that is the whole thing...for those of us who LOVE family history, it is the challenge to find the dusty record, to find the family Bible, to find a way to prove that illiterate family members existed when they signed with an X.
I really enjoy my DAR experience. We do a lot of good for people in a wide-variety of projects, both locally and nationally.
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