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Those women are living in a dream world. What makes them think that being a full time mom will make their lives stress free? What makes them think that they have any control over whether their husbands stay with them? Going to the gym and getting facials? If that is what makes a marriage work, then why would beautiful celebs get divorced? How many men out there make $800,000 a year? What happens when Mr. Moneybags gets in a car accident and becomes a paraplegic with enormous medical bills? What happens if Mr. Moneybags gets tired of this wife who has nothing more interesting to talk about every day than facials and who was at the spa? A stress free life, while married with kids?????? Guaranteed no divorce? There are no such things. This is reality, not a TV show that we can script.
As to a more realistic outlook, I think that when a family decides together that the woman is going to stay home with the kids, that is terrific. I think when a family decides together that the woman is going to work part time while the kids are young, that is terrific. When a family decides that the best thing for them is both of them working full time, it's terrific. If the family decides that the man is going to stay home with the kids, that's terrific too. The whole point of feminism was to have choices and work out what is best for the individuals involved.
Personally, if I had stayed home with my two colicky babies when they were infants, I'd have gone mad. I agree with Kristin AGD that it would be way more fun to be home with them now that they are a little bit older. I would enjoy being their lunch mom, going on every field trip, helping with the school store, etc. However, as a working (single) mom, I do go to half of all the field trips (that's what vacation time is for). I'm a cub scout leader and was a soccer coach when they were into that. I also volunteer for AGD and work full time. I also know that when I was home on maternity leaves (and a medical leave), I felt as if a large part of my identity was gone. I was depressed and felt isolated from the real world. I can't be kept busy enough or stimulated enough from staying home.
I also agree with the poster who said teaching was the ideal profession. I absolutely wish that I had gone into teaching... maybe for my third career!
Dee
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