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Originally posted by Taualumna
OK, how about this one: DAR family has two daughters. One is biological, the other one isn't. Wouldn't the adopted one always feel really left out at meetings because she is only a guest? Also, I've seen a DAR commercial on TV, and I've always thought it was weird to see the Asian kid, since there probably weren't any Asians in the US at the time. Oh well, the adopted girl always has the Junior League
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LOL!!!! We have three - count 'em,
three! - "Asian kids" who will be full members of our chapter when they reach 18!! Their father has the DAR lineage, and their mother just enjoys coming to the meetings.
Seriously, imagine a tea party, or a ladies' luncheon. Nice clothes, nice food, nice ladies event. Some wear pins or other insignia, but not all of them. Some are members, and some are not. Now, I'm only speaking for the chapters which I have visited, but I have NEVER, EVER felt as if I didn't belong simply because I wasn't a member. And I was going to meetings long before I was able to prove my lineage.
See, the vast majority of the DAR ladies that I've met are terribly
nice. Everyone goes out of her way to make everyone feel welcome. So, would an adopted daughter feel left out? I would think that would be how the mother approached the topic - just like any other adoption-related topic.