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amalia, i am so sorry that you are getting anxious as cob events approach, but you know you have already won half the battle by being able to identify the way you usually operate. by doing that, you are half way to a change! maybe you could "practice" making conversation with classmates,your roommate, neighbors, people at the laundromat, in lunch line, etc. check everyone out and pick someone with a smile on their face who seems friendly.just go up to them with a smile on your face, and start a conversation. for instance, if you are in the laundromat, you could say, " gosh, will these clothes ever get dry?" after exchanging a few sentences you can introduce yourself and continue on with a conversation.
if you can start to feel comfortable doing this, you might feel a little more relaxed at the cob events. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain-you just might make a new friend.
and at the sororities, remember you just might get someone just as anxious as you. if you can have a few topics prepared ahead of time that you can ask the sorority member, such as "what was your favorite class last semester and then ask why, who is your favorite professor/why, have you seen "lord of the rings, big fish, cheaper by the dozen," etc., have you read(insert book title here)?
best of luck to you, smile and remember, those girls were in your shoes a year or two ago, and they were probably nervous too!
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