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Originally posted by James
In fact the more i think about the more that makes sense. Ok you are not a virgin and have decided to make the guy wait to "prove" something.
Fair enough. But lets say he adores you but still wnts sexual gratification. Something you are unwilling to give him. He should be allowed to have sex with other women without any repurcussions.
Think about it. As long as its casual sex, he will still be around for you, fulfill your emotional needs while she fulfills his physical needs . . at least until you have decided he has "proved" whatever. Then when you fulfill his physical needs he can stop having casual sex with others.
I think thats pretty win win don't you?
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I haven't read through the entire thread, so I'm sorry if I take this a little out of context or repeat what someone else already said... but I think women who want to wait are only trying to prove to themselves that the person they want to be with can be trusted. The situation above is totally lose/lose (or win for the guy, lose for the girl, if the guy only cares about sex, which any guy who would do that probably does). There is so much more to a relationship then having sex and if one party can't bear to wait until the other party feels comfortable, then they're only proving that they can't be trusted.
And honestly, if a guy I'm dating is that much of an animal that he cannot control his sexual and physical needs (to the point where he has to have sex outside the relationship just because I won't) while we're learning about each other, then I wouldn't want to date him. We're human beings, NOT rabbits. Control yourself, for heavens sake.