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one thing that helped me
when i rushed.....at one house i was paired with a sorority member who must have been a rusher for the first time and was terribly shy. she was smiling a lot, but hardly talked. i was getting bored and starting to feel uncomfortable so i started talking to her, asking her questions like i was the member and she the rushee. i asked her major, hometown, etc. and then started in on movies she might have recently seen,books read, what her favorite class had been so far, etc. it was just survival at the time, but she relaxed so much and seemed to have a good time that i decided to try it again if the occasion merited it. it must have worked, because i was invited back to all but one house(and i would have dropped that house anyway-was just mad that i didn't get the chance!)
so my advise would be to be prepared to take control of the conversation . have some prepared topics in mind in case you get paired with someone who is not a brillant conversationalist. it probably is not that they do not like you, but that they are shy and unsure of themselves. remember people like to talk about themselves-its the topic they know the most about! best of luck. keep an open mind and have fun! lisa
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