Hey, soror director! I'm back!!!
OK, here is my advice. This is not a rebound situation on either side, and you have been divorced for a while. You also have been friends with the 'friend guy' for a long enough time to know what his intentions may be, so my question to you is, what do you think YOU should do? That is really the most important thing here. If you feel that a relationship is something that will destroy your friendship, then discuss that with him, and see what his response would be. Also, reflect on how he is in relationships. The way men act with friends and lovers can be like night and day. Are there things that he does in relationships that you cannot deal with, or things that you wish he was doing to you?
Weigh those options! My best friend is a guy, and he is ever so fine, but I could never date him because he is waaayyyyy to clingy. He likes to be around his girl 25/8, and that would completely wear me out!
If he is a good catch, (and since he is already a friend you know it), there is absolutely no reason to deny yourself! Soror, no matter what has happened in the past with relationships, or anything else in your life, today is the first day of the rest of your life, and oh, what a great day it is! You deserve to be treated well, and if you feel that he has the capacity to do so, then why not? Be happy, beautiful soror, and accept all of the good things that this world has in store for you....You are worth it!
Always Sisterly,
Soror6
DST - Spring '91 Mighty Midwest (Theta - E)