Any man who can be described as
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...a male friend who was by my side through my divorce and another fallen relationship...the pain, the crying, the whole nine.
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is the kind of man who is definitely worth a try!
He obviously cares a great deal about you, and, he has respected you enough to wait until he feels you're ready before letting you know what's been on his mind (as opposed to stepping in when you were vulnerable, like some so-called male "friends" do).
Fact is, a relationship should ALWAYS be founded on friendship, if it is to maintain it's strength and structure. The two of you are good friends, so all you need to do is be willing to step out on faith and explore the next step(s). My best advice is that you really talk through the pros and cons of making the transition between platonic friends and (possibly) romantic lovers. Don't try to answer questions that only time can answer, but do discuss the nature of your friendship in the event that things don't fit in the romantic category. Communication is crucial! Neither of you should hold anything back! If things begin to feel weird or uncomfortable for either of you, make a promise that you'll admit it. More than anything, take things SLOW! Don't just think you can snap your fingers and be in a relationship. Let the transition be a smooth, gradual one. When it comes to things like physical intimacy, for instance, let the moment decide for you. It's "wise and good" to listen to your mind, but only your heart can truly determine when something or someone is right or wrong. If you've already engaged in honest, uninhibited communication, then you can trust your instincts whenever they tell you to do or not do something.
I say give the brotha a go! You'll never know unless you try. Not too many women are blessed to have a man to love who's also a dear friend! And, if his friendship is TRUE is will be there even if things don't work out the way he'd like them to. Remember:
It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all!
Blessings, Soror!
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