I think a lot of time its a matter of when key information is revealed.
We all have baggage to one degree or another, some more unsettling. So when do you lay your cards down?
Most people don't volunteer negative information in the beginning because they don't want to be automatically eliminated by category.
You know how some poeple have wierd arbitray rules? Like I won't date someone who is/has _______. And they will try and avoid dating those categories. But they will date those people of they already like them . . . Odd eh? So people know that so they don't reveal their cards right away lol.
Society is harsh on women. And its mostly women that seem to uphold and dictate social norms . . whatever that means lol.
Ok I have gotten way off topic.
Its going to be kind of personal on how many partners bothers someone. And there is no good rule of thumb. I know guys that get bothered by anyting over 3. And some over 5. Thats all in the asbstract, as in a random conversation in general.
As far as deception. Look, we all keep secrets. We all shade the truth. The amount of partners you have is your business, its your partners business whether you have a social disease or kids because that might affect them directly.
So feel free to shade that truth as much as you might about your weight
