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Originally posted by sororitygirl2
If you are a pushover and are lacking in self-confidence though, I think it is a total turnoff, and you need to find out how to fix that.
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That's really it -- in my past, when I've dated guys who were
too nice, the problem was really that they seemed to be lacking self esteem and confidence. I didn't want to date a guy who said things to me like, "You're so beautiful. Why are you with me?" because after a while, I don't know why I'm with you if you're so insecure.
I think that usually calling a guy "too nice" is really a code for something else -- usually it's that the guy is coming off as a wuss who won't stand up for himself or who has no self esteem, or, in the alternative, that particular woman doesn't find him attractive and it's an easy way to get out without seeming mean or bitchy.