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Originally posted by _Opi_
Can't be presumptious since I have never been in that situation before. I would think though that the kids have a mother, so therefore, it is not my responsibility to help raise his child/ren..so if he seems like the perfect package..a kid wouldn't hurt. Its not the child part that would concern me, its the babymama really. You know there are some obsessive babymamas out there..and I don't want no drama.
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See, that's the problem. Why would you presume that the mother is going to raise the children? I think it's fairly common for parents to have joint custody when they're not together. Say you date a guy with kids, things go really well, and you eventually end up getting married. At that point, it is going to be your responsibility, at least to some extent, to help raise his kids. If they're spending weekends with you, or every other week, or the summer, you are going to have a huge role in raising them, and you're probably going to have a lot of "You're not my mother!" drama because they don't want to listen to you. When they are staying with you, for all intents and purposes, it would be as if they were your own children. It would be a HUGE amount of work, and I think it would be very difficult, because the kids had been raised without you until that point -- so they may have behavior problems and issues that really bother you.