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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
actually, you don't have divorces because you are not allowed to get divorced. you will shame your family...and you will be damaged goods (so to speak). what you do have is a high rate of adultery- although it is the man who is the cheater bc the woman isn't allowed. you also have very unhappy marriages because two people don't have anything in common. you also don't have the happy family thing you may expect. in my friend's family, his mother is completely mistreated by his father's family. his parents have been married more than 30 years and it has never gotten better. mainly what you get is two people who are forced to stay together even tho they don't want to and they are basically miserable...and then bring that miserableness to the family that they are supposed to have becuase their parents said so.
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That makes no sense and you have no statistics on it, just the experience of one friend. I don't care if you had the experience of 10 friends. I have the experience of someone in the culture. Someone that knows parents have the child's interests at heart. Parents that know it's not good for either party to be miserable. I don't even know where the adultery came from. What culture is it where adultery is easy, whore houses plentiful, and arranged marriages the norm? I'd love to know.
Nobody is claiming in these countries that there aren't backwards cultures where women are treated badly - just that these marriages have worked out well for many people and avoid divorce as well as the problems leading to divorce because they force you to consider the immediate and extended family as opposed to yourself.
-Rudey
--And I would know about a couple hundred families who enjoy life more and never fight - all arranged marriages.