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I really think you ought to listen to what everyone's saying...some of it's harsh, but I was thinking about your situation just today because it's so similar to the one I was in. My ex had a horrible job where he had to work weird hours and his bosses were complete maniacs (they ended up fleeing the country because they got in some kind of trouble), but he was getting free lodging by living in their basement so he stayed. His mother was much like you describe your boyfriend's mother--she made it clear that she thought her son should be back home (with her) and not gallivanting around America. Never mind the fact that his own country is a mess and he had a much better chance for a future over here. He moved home "temporarily" last February to get a job in order to earn enough to finish school, and he asked me to come. I didn't, because I knew he wouldn't come back here. And I am so glad. I miss him, but anyone who would want to go back to that is a raving lunatic.
The part I'm really worried about is his mother. When you marry a guy, you marry his family, too. Some may disagree with me, but if his mother is really like you say she is, you've got a problem. She'll be sticking her nose into everything, and try to tell you what to do...can you live with that? I don't want to sound cruel, but I really don't want to see anyone get caught in that situation--I know people who have, and it's been a disaster. Just be very careful.
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