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Originally posted by Taualumna
Perhaps people aren't reading my question correctly. I don't suppose that anyone would mind if your parents' friends set you up with their son/daughter, and you guys end up dating and eventually marrying. Modern arranged marriages are just that. A girl (who came from a culture where arranged marriages are the norm) I went to high school with met her future husband when she was 16 and "dated" him for six years. She could have said no after she finished university, but she didn't and married him. Another girl from high school (who isn't from a culture where people have arranged marriages) recently married a guy she met at a ski trip. He's the son of a family friend.
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i guess we aren't. when i hear arranged marriage, i think of my friend's parents going to india, meeting a few women, deciding which ones they liked and then introducing them to sam. sam met them, decided which one he liked the most and then got engaged. and this all happened within the course of a week. it will be one year before they are actually married, but she lives in india and he lives in the us, so they do have some time to get to know one another.
eta: when his older sister got engaged, his parents narrowed it down from 72 men to 12. and she didn't like any of those 12, but had to pick ONE of them.
as for people who end up marrying a friend of the family, that is totally not an arranged marriage. arranged marriage implies that the couple has no choice....or very little choice in whom they marry. to me, that sounds like a cute coincidence.