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Dude.
Dude.
She has to think you are just twisted. A true a mind-phocker.
You break up with her. I am sure it devestated her. She stays single for a year while you lead her on by hanging out with her.
No doubt trying to get your head on straight whatever that means . . .
Did you see anyone else in the interim? Date at all?
Cause its kind of like you deliberately kept her around so that you would have the security of knowing that you could always get back together and get married or what not IF you didn't find anything better out there.
So then she forces you to make a move by dating Bob. And we don't really know how bad Bob is because . . well . . . Ex-boyfriends are not good character witnesses for new boyfriends lol . . .
If she goes out drinking with him . . well oh well .. like thats kind of normal lol . . we would have more sympathy if he made her into a crack whore or ecstasy addict.
I'll be honest. Probably the best thing you could do for both of you is get over it and move on . ..
However, you did ask for advice on getting her back . . so here is the technque:
Be the last man standing.
Bob has very little past with her, and you have been part of her life even through the break-up. That gives you an enormous advantage. Right now she is infatuated, however, if you can make yourself part of her life still you can keep yourself fresh in her mind.
As long as you can keep yourself present in her mind while she is seeing this chap, its unlikely she will be able to really form a deep and solid relationship with him. She knows this deep down, its why she blows you off.
If you can persist past that and keep in her head, you will in effect be sabotaging this relationship and can move in a pick up the pieces.
All it requires is some manipulation and an utter lack of honor. Kepp doing what you are doing now, which is to profess that you want to be friends with her .. and that its perfectly normal for friends to talk and hang out . . . be reasonable. She won't have much defense against it.
And for those of you that think this advice is full of it or can't work . . what is one of the most top warning signs that a new relationship is probably going to fail?
The EX is an imporant and constant part of their lives.
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