I'm glad that you see it this way watters. I live with my boyfriend. Let me tell you, it is not well recieved, but it is something that our society is seeing more of everyday. The had part is that when my relationship is discussed, I am the evil person who bewitched a "nice young man." I'm the slut or whore, I'm the bad person, while my boyfriend is the poor sould who happened to be my "latest" victum. What a load of BS. People don't realize what I had to go through for this man! We are planning to get married, but not anytime soon. I knew he was the one, that is the only reason I agreed to move in with him. It was so hard for me to "defy" my parents. My brother lived with his girlfriend (he's lived with a few). But my parents actually said that it was OK for him to live with his significant other, but not for their daughter. I know first hand what society thinks, because I'm one of the "floozies" they think this way about. We got turned down for so many appartments and houses(rentals) because we weren't married it's not funny! My point to all this is, male escapades are much more widly accepted than female escapades. Yes, sorority girls are looked at in a harsher light than fraternity guys, but we need to make the public aware that in all actuality, it is not because we are in a sorority we have multiple partners, it is because we are human, it is because we are individuals. Being part of a sorority does not mean that we sign a contract when initiated that says "I will sleep with X number of men before I graduate." We do not sleep with multiple partners because we are automatically transformed once we are initiated into sex machines. People in greek organizations do not make all their decissions based on their sorority or fraternity. We are individuals that are allowed and very capable of making up our own minds. THIS is what the public needs to be made aware of.
Just a note: I believe that the word "stud" is more widely recognized to be a good term rather than a bad one. . .but I could be wrong.
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Mikki Gates
Delta Zeta Alum
Kappa Mu Chapter
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Eta Tau Chapter
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