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Oh wow. I do not envy you. What a difficult situation.
The main thing I would say is this: Don't even THINK about doing this until you visit his hometown with him for an extended period of time (i.e., not just a weekend) and see how you would live. Walk around the town, imagine yourself there and see if it would work.
Will you live on your own? Where? How will you pay for a house? Or will you live with his mother? If not with her, then nearby? It's a lot of pressure on any new bride to live so close to the in-laws, not to mention being in a new country.
What will he do to financially support you, since you probably won't be working? Will that be sufficient to keep you happy? I will admit that I am a spoiled American, and I like it. I don't want to give up my pretty car, and nice clothes and big apartment. I worked my butt off in law school to afford these things. I know the stereotype of Mexicans and Latin Americans as dirt poor isn't true, but the standard of living is very different.
What are your plans for a family? It's my understanding that birth control is harder to obtain in Mexico. Do you mind having a large family?
Will you be happy not working? I might get bored. This is going to sound bad, but do you have "domestic" skills - i.e., can you handle cooking, cleaning, running a household? (I'm sorry if that sounds rude, but I know a lot of college students, heck even 30 year olds, that have trouble with this)
I am not as worried about the language issue. When you are immersed in the language like you would be, it becomes easier. But I would definitely start taking some classes now - if not at your college, then night classes. I took an adult education Italian course once - it was a lot of fun, and pretty cheap.
I wish you the best of luck. It must be so hard to love someone but have to change your whole life around to be with them.
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