I agree with the idea that if you want something bad enough you must do what's necessary (within reason) to obtain it. That me be getting up enough nerve to make the initial contact to a member who may APPEAR unapproachable. If you're scared to speak or won't make the attempt to get to know a person, why should they consider you to join their org? You would be a complete stranger or appear to lack confidence.

Just my personal feelings and observations.