Personally, I'd never feel comfortable doing it, even if I was really attracted to the guy! I agree that it's a bad idea, but I can't help but wonder: What if maybe--just maybe-- your friend's ex is your Divine Soulmate? How do you know whether he/she is "The One" God has chosen for you?!?!? Like AKA2D, I think I'd be disappointed and flat out HURT, depending on my feelings for the guy or the nature of our relationship (and break-up), but at the same time, I'd want my friend to be happy. But perhaps I'm just playing Devil's Advocate here.
If their "union" came after the fact, then I'd probably try my best to get over it; if I discover that they'd been secret lovers while I was with the guy, then we'd have problems. If it were me and my friend's ex, I'd be totally lost and confused. My mind would be saying "HELL NO," but my heart might actually be saying the opposite. This is when prayer and open, honest communication with all involved are key, I guess.
This is kinda interesting, so I'd love to hear some other folks' thoughts!
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