Lemme tell you all "blessed single folk":
Do you really want to fight over whose family you spend Christmas with?
I am crying pink and green tears because SOME people at the last minute get on MY case for being "inconsiderate of their parental rights" toward her son...
Yes, that's right. The MIL...
First, we barely scraped enough cash to fly across the dayum US only to be stripped searched at the airport and all our gifts practically stolen, 'cuz SHE's upset that we decided that we could not afford to come 8 hours on a plane away...
Second, after I tell her and email her what our plans would be when we got there and I tell her this 3 weeks ago
, I hear nothing... The plan was to spend part of Christmas day with her, and then spend the rest with my almost 90 year old grandmother and all 10 of my aunts, uncles and cousins...
Whereas, she only will have her other son and her niece and her niece's husband--I have not met them, but I will when we get there...
And it ain't like my family is exclusive--we're like, "The More the Merrier" and I totally invited my ILs to come... Who would want to be in the kitchen all day on Christmas--I thought... But I guess I was wrong... And because of who my Grandmother is, she will have mega food laid out for her by the next door college cafeteria... My MIL would not have to cook!!! So I thought--I know my mom would be happy if she didn't have to do anything in anybody's kitchen on Christmas Day... But this MIL woman...
Third, I talk to my MIL last night and NOW she has to trip... Saying that I am dominating over my husband. That he has already met my Grandmother. That I am not allowing my husband has not spent ANY time with his OWN family--like I am really not a part of it... And as his mother, she should take precedence over my family--that is her right--given the fact that my husband and I did not have the kind of marriage ceremony that was HER fuggin' example of "formal"...
Just plain BULLISHT!!!
Anyhow, the kind of person that I am is that I want to keep the peace and I had to break a promise to my almost 90 year old Grandmother to spend "part" of Christmas with her, and tell her, I must spend it ALL with my ILs... I broke my Grandmother's heart when I told her... And now, I do not know WHAT I can do...
I will see my Grandmother, 'cuz I ain't flying 8 hours on a plane and NOT see her, but it will havta be a couple of days after Christmas...
My own mother is sort of hurt 'cuz I'm not spending the Holidays with her--but she has already gone thru "married child division" with my brother and his wife and gotten over it... And I really cannot speak to my mom about it 'cuz she is going thru a tough time with the loss of her brother... That is just foul of me to dump on her while she is grieving...
And my dad is like, I shoulda stood up to this woman... I shoulda said these are the plans...
And my husband is like, he didn't know what his mother had fathomed in her mind... And it is not like my husband was pissed off when I spoke to him about the visiting schedule...
And I'm like, why am I flying across the country at this time of year anyways... I really am not gonna have fun. Giving the fact that I'll be M.S.'ing--rather than PMS'ing that I am doing now...
So single ladies, just glad with your blessing of "solitude" during this season, because you could be crying now by being divided...