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Originally posted by markmywords
My issue is this. What are sometimes seemed as preferences often become prejudices. Why is it that I've heard several little black children say things like "i don't like him he's too black" or "i'll only date light skinned women." That is no longer a preference that is a prejudice often learned in the home. What does that tell the members of the group that aren't so called preferred?
Instead of preferring a skin tone, why not prefer someone who has a relationship with God, who is independent, who knows how to care for a mate, someone who possesses a thirst for knowledge. Why not ask for these things and let God provide a mate suitable for you. If God brings you a mate I'm sure it will be someone you "prefer".
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I agree that there are intellectual qualities and moral convictions that should be considered in choosing a mate. However, it is unrealistic to expect everyone to look solely at those qualities. To sustain a relationship, there has to be attraction on all levels, physical included. So, why is it so wrong to admit that you prefer a certain look? Sure, I wanted someone who could treat me well and loved the Lord more than me. But I also would have had trouble waking up to someone who I found repulsive physically. I'm sorry if that sounds wrong, but I don't think it is. It is
my preference for
my mate.
Now, if I took that preference and turned it into my hiring practices or the people I choose to live near, it becomes a prejudice, not simply because I chose a mate that I was attracted to.