I feel you!
I had my son at 24, and the patience... oh lawd. It is hard.
I love him with all I have, and when I had him I had no intention of marrying anyone... let alone his dad. Please ladies... don't take a man up on his offer just because you are with child, or feel like you are getting old. My mom had me at 32, and my aunt had her first little angel at 40 - no husband. My son's grandma had her last child at 40. My friends are getting married all around me, and since marriage was never my lifelong dream, I have yet to get annoyed. My best friend got married this may... again... not annoyed. I know so many UNHAPPY married couples, and young divorced people, it is sad. Maybe that is why. I know some that LOOK happy... until they announce they are getting divorced.
Again I say PLEASE don't take a man up on his offer because you are lonely, feel like you are getting older, need kids and a family, or anything like that. I cringe when I think of what my life would have been like if I'd married my son's dad.
I want more kids an a husband would be nice too, but I may or may not have any more at 28 (28 on the 24th of this month). Either way, I know that
I am a hot piece of woman candy, and I am the best thing that will happen to somebody (a husband or some more younguns)... When God says so.
Being divorced is often much harder than being single... And don't get me wrong, I am not saying that women don't need men. Lord knows we do! Just wait for the right one. It will be so worth it!
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Originally posted by Miss. Mocha
Ideal08,
I just had to post. Having babies before you are 30 is not all it's cracked up to be. I know from experience. Not that motherhood isn't DIVINE!!! It is, but it can DIVINE later in life, too.
I had my daughter when I was 24. I wanted to have her "younger", because I really wanted to be able to relate to the "kid" things that she would do. To this day, I love that part. I love chasing my daughter down the hallway, trying to tickle her. I love hiding behind a door and jumping out saying a loud "BOO!!".
However, there are down sides. Sometimes, I don't have the patience that I would like to have with her. I feel that this is a lack of maturity on my part (I believe that maturity is a process, not a goal. I'm maturing more everyday). Sometimes, I feel like I'm a little too "girlfriend-esque" with her...if you know what I'm saying. My daughter, my husband and I are learning about life together. It's one way to go, but who can say it's the right way, or the only way, or the best way.
Girl, enjoy your 20s, and when that baby comes, you'll know first hand exactly what I'm rmabling about (LOL).
Miss. Mocha
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