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My ex-husband and I are good friends. Most people are amazed that we get along as well as we do after the divorce. We will do some things with the kids together, like taking them to a baseball game, the circus, taking the kids to see Santa. It helps split the cost of major events and helps with the restroom issue (my son is almost 8.. too old to come into the women's room with me, and still young so I worry when I send him in the men's room alone at a huge public event). We have joint custody of the kids and have to communicate almost daily. He does still get on my nerves something awful if I have to spend too much time with him, but overall, we are friends. We care about each other and have a joint goal of making sure our kids are reasonably well adjusted. We help each other out in emergencies. I think it has helped our kids adjust to the divorce. I'm even still on his checking account so I can just transfer funds when the latch key bill is due. His dating others doesn't bother me a bit, as long as they are good to the kids. He almost got married again and I was happy for him, the kids like her, etc. In fact, I'll be glad if he marries again because he can be a really forgetful airhead and I'm hoping that his new wife would take on the responsibility of reminding him where he's supposed to be when!
At Christmas and Birthdays, we even pay for whatever the kids want to buy for each of us. I'm taking the kids Christmas shopping for him today.
If we didn't have kids though, we probably wouldn't have much contact.
Dee
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