My parents could be pretty toxic... sounds like yours are worse, though. Basically, my parents had a hard time accepting that I was an adult and that I had the right to make my own decisions about my life and that those decisions wouldn't necessarily agree with my father's Grand Plan.
Our relationship got better when that sank in, but I was about 25 and married for a couple years before that happened...
Just remember that you're an adult and you have the right to make your own decisions.
