[astroAPhi]

I wouldn't launch into a list of their faults and tell them every single thing they did wrong. However, I think that if you're breaking up with someone out of the blue, you at least owe them an explanation.

I know I used to ask guys why, back in high school. As I got older, it became a bit more apparent why we were breaking up. I remember crying and asking my boyfriend "What happened?" on the phone my freshman year. He acted like everything was fine all the way until we broke up. To give me a crappy, "it just wasn't working out," was cowardly. I had to learn the truth months later from my best friend, who kept it from me because she wanted to spare my feelings. And all the problem was that the kid lost interest (later I realized it was because he thought he could be a player and soon learned he was wrong). I would have gotten over it a lot quicker if he would have just told me what the hell was wrong, instead of leaving me to wonder and mentally beat myself up about it.

If you're going to break up with someone, don't say something awful like, "You suck in bed." Just tell them the truth in a manner that a human being deserves. After all, you don't like it when someone you cared about trashes you, right?