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I've heard the same thing about "it's not fair to the children.
My mother got me gifts throughout the year, so when Christmas came and she asked, "what do you want?" Often my answer was, "Nothing." I already had what I wanted and if there was something it was no more than two things and I was content.
You (as a parent) have control of how your children will react to Christmas and any other holiday. I never said, "Oh that's not fair, that Junebug and them got twenty things I got one."
I worked with this sistahs that instead of getting gifts for her daughter for her birthday she had what she called, "wisdom gifts.'
All the women in her family, mother, aunts, great-aunts, grandmothers etc. gave her daughter words of wisdom. She said she didn't want her kids to believe that they are SUPPOSE to get something. One great -aunt told her, "keep the nickel between your knees." Another said, "always come in the same day you went out."
A couple I know has a Christmans club for their two kids. When Christmas comes around they purchase a gift for each child and deposit the remainder in a college fund. That's fair not a bunch of toys that they will only play with for a week or two. (That's what the couple said of their reason for only getting one gift per child).
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