[O_SoPrettyNikki]

1. Yes, sometimes romantic feelings can mess up a good friendship. Unfortunately not everyone is mature enough remain friends after a break up. This is especially true if the couple weren't REAL friends in the beginning. However, if the 2 are REAL friends, I believe, that a serious and honest talk needs to take place before the relationship begins. Sometimes knowing someone as friends before hand is a blessing, other times it can be HELL on earth.

2. You can't MAKE anyone see you in a romantic light. As friends some romantic feelings may develop gradually the more time you spend with each other. Try spending more time with this friend, just the 2 of you. However, if your not his type, your just not.

3. First of all, rejection in a relationship is like anything else. Don't put yourself out there if you cannot handle a possible negative reaction. Because life doesnt always work out just the way we want, we should prepare ourselves for alternative outcomes. If your ready to put your cards on the table, also be ready to accept that your friend may not react well to your advance. If said person is really a friend, then he will do his best to let you know, in the nicest way possible, that he is not interested, without hurting your feelings much. Before approaching your friend, you should be honest with yourself and figure out how a possible rejection will affect you. Are you gonna run and hide and never speak to your friend again? Is it going to be the end of your world? If so, you may want to re-evaluate the friendship and/or your motives for becoming friends in the first place. In a TRUE friendship you will not always see eye to eye, but you will always, always be there to support each other, no matter what the circimstances.

4. Hmmmm, I can only give you my experience. My friend and I had romantic feeling towards each other, however he also felt that should we have a relationship, it would ruin the friendship. Of course I did not agree. For a while I was too pissed that he wouldn't give me the benefit of the doubt and at least try. Although I was upset I never ever let my feelings get in the way of supporting him, and being there when ever he needed me. Even when I had to listen to stories about him and his friggin girlfriend. Yes, it was hard but more than I wanted to be with him, I wanted him to be happy. Because we were friends, it was easy to tell him how I felt b/c I knew that he would never judge me. The situation actually helped us to grow as friends. Don't get it twisted , like any other friends we argue and what have you, but at the end of the day, if I pick up the phone and say I need you, He will be there, no questions asked.