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Originally posted by 33girl
Maybe I was a freak but I never looked at a girl and said "Oh my God, if she pledges then maybe the Phi Sigmas will mix with us!!" Yes it was nice to have nice looking girls - everyone likes being around attractive people, same or opposite sex, that's an established biological fact - but if she was stupid or mean she was out of there in a heartbeat no matter how stunning she was.
If you are choosing girls based on how the fraternities look at them you might as well put red velvet on your walls and call yourselves a whorehouse. Because that's what an establishment is that selects women based on their "value" where men are concerned.
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I think the number of sororites out there who are straight up saying, "We have to get the beautiful girls or the Sig Eps won't mix with us!" is low. But pandering to what the frats want is such an ingrained part of the sorority rush process that I don't think most women even realize that that's what's going on. That is one of the major feminist criticisms of the rush process -- and one of the most valid, I think. (I originally typed "vapid" . . . Freudian slip!) It's just come to be accepted that being beautiful helps you get into a sorority, and most of us realize that good lucks are one of the things we look for in rushees (along with, and hopefully in most cases secondary to, good personalities and good manners) . . . and I don't believe for a second that "people like being surrounded by good looking people" is the main reason for that.
There is a reason that almost no campuses have a "fat fraternity" but almost every campus has a "fat sorority."
Part of this has grown out of the fact that mixers form the major part of most sorority social lives, but frat parties form an equally major part of most fraternity social lives. If the sororities aren't popular with the fraternities, the social aspect of their dues is going to waste because they won't be able to mix. But if the fraternities aren't popular with the sororities, all they have to do is throw a party with free beer and all the freshman girls will come a-running in their tube tops and miniskirts.
Sororities are, unfortunately, just more dependant on fraternities than fraternities are on them for a successful social life. Which means that part of their membership selection criteria will, more often than not, pander to that unless they are able to reinvent the idea of the typical sorority social events.
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Originally posted by Glitter650
I guess what I'm trying to say is that even though people may make cuts for shallow reasons sometimes.... it's usually NEVER done in a spirit of meanness (at least I should hope not, and I know my chapter always remains very respectful when we are discussing potential sisters.
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This is going to sound hokey, but I thought dealing with getting cut during rush was going to be the hardest part of sorority life -- it wasn't. Sitting in on membership selection and having to cut girls whom I had never met or letting my sisters cut girls I genuinely liked was so much harder.