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I have a ten year old son who plays both tennis and golf (very well I must add). He also plays the drums but that was second to him wanting to play the sax and not being able to during the formative years.
My dad asked me the other day if I had him in any "sports." When I said what they were, he gave a little chuckle. I was like "damn pops." This is the same man who is a complete sports FANATIC. Watches every sport there is. Conditioned my brother (I say this because conditioning is what we are doing to our children) to be a sport fanatic himself to the point he was overly interested in sports ( like didn't attend prom because he barely had time for dating, etc.)
Tennis is non-traditional but it's only because we condition our kids to do the more masculine out of fear of, yet again, homosexuality. It's only non-traditional until we partake in it and blow the f___ up. I say what's more is "can my son play a non-traditional sport and still have a sense of self as a BLACK male(think Tiger...he BLEW up in a non-traditional sport but now he's marrying the white chick)? I, like any other mother, want grandchildren and a daughter-in-law. Do I think because my son does not play football that this won't happen? No.
On the converse, I know a little boy, 20 years as well. He weighs about...170 pounds. A big kid. Plays football. Loves football. He is really sensitive. He is being raised by a single mother and really is empathetic to his mom and women in general. Will he be a punk? Who knows?
My point is, I don't think it makes a difference either way.
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