Well the candle passings I have done were quite similiar to what Honey has mentioned. The difference was that during the first time around the sister would blow it out if she was 'pinned'. The second time around if she was given a promise ring and the third time around if she was given an engagement ring.
In all honesty though, by the third time around I'm about ready for the candle to blown and I don't have to sing 'Pass it On' anymore. (I think this is because my last candle passing was at Founders Day with the entire active collegiate chapter of Gamma Rho and like 50 alum, it took FOREVER to get the candle around three times. I was so tired of singing my the time Meghan blew out the candle. I think I was crying not only for her but for not having to sing anymore).
Sorry had to share my candle passing experience.
Brianna