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Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
Caitie, it really depends on your school.
And a PSA to the general GC audience: You can share a bed with a guy and not have sex.
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#1-It does NOT depend on your school...it depends on your moral character and whose opinion matters to you. If you really don't care what anyone thinks, then what the hell...why not?...but since you actually do seem concerned about what other people think, then I would not do it.
If we all went around just doing whatever feels good not worrying about the consequences and other people's judgments of our actions then what the hell is that?!?.... And what is the deal with people not being allowed to "judge" you on your choices??? Since when is THAT a rule?!!? I know Catie mentioned she appreciates not being judged here about considering this,...but I am making the argument that you this is how we are defined...by our actions! And those who are okay with it are OF COURSE going to tell you to go for it, pulling you into the "black hole" of "anything goes and screw you if you have an opinion based on my actions"...But the ones who think it shows promiscuous character are going to define poor Catie by it...and NO ONE is telling her this
#2-And as for sharing a bed with a guy and not having sex...cough..cough..okay, sure, it's been done....LOTS...but that's not what is going to be talked about, is it??? Also, something is odd about making the decision to sleep in a guy's bed and still feel the need to run around telling people "oh, but we didn't have sex"...don't you ask yourself WHY it is important for you to make that distinction? Is one less slutty than the other?? And if it isn't, then why do you care??? I thought we didn't care what other people thought....hmmmmmm
Sorry if I come off hostile....I'm just really passionate that somebody ought to give Catie some WISE advice instead of platitudes and dismissive permission to whore herself (or at least her reputation) out to this guy and the mind's of the guys in his collective fraternity! This is something she could potentially regret for years to come, and it's like BAD ADVICE DAY on Greek chat or something...
CATIE BE STRONG...if you decide to sleep with this guy, at least don't do it in the FRAT house!!!