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Originally posted by gammazetagrl
Well given my current situation I was wondering about this. And you know how when a couple breaks up they say "oh we can still be friends" but then they cannot get over the awkward situation and so it doesnt really happen? has it happened where u guys have realllly been able to stay in contact w/ an ex and even hang out (platonically)once a while? or is this all just BS? how long has it took where u can finally see your ex and not feel grudgingly or sad (like longing for him)anymore, and actually be HAPPY for him?..oh yeah and one more thing, is it proper, and if it is, in what time frame should it be okay to ask your ex whether they have a new gf/bf?
Sorry for the babbling. But any replies will be greatly appreciated.
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"To supress our feelings only makes them stronger"--from Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon
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There's only one exboyfriend that I've been able to stay friends with. However the friendship certainly didn't happen over night. As a matter of fact it took us a good five months and 8 hours distance to resolve some things. He ended up dating a girl where he went to school and I persued other guys. Three years later we found ourselves together last year when my engagement broke off. So as you can see, if it is the right guy, it can work out.
But as far as the rest of the men I've dated: screw 'em. The reasons for those break ups were so severe that I don't think a friendship could have resulted. And that's how you have to look at things - if the trust was broken, if the guy cheated, if he was just BAD for you overall, why would you want to keep that type of person in your life?