[Janerz222]

Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. When I was in college, both my big and my two littles resigned their memberships (well, my 2nd little did after I graduated). Some just don't see the reward of Theta membership that the rest of us are reaping throughout our whole lives, so they choose not to be Thetas anymore. For some, it's just not their "thing". For others, they never put enough into it to get a lot out. Some fill the need in another way. For others, the money and/or time commitment is a real issue.

Give them some space (but be receptive to any reaching out they might do), and maybe in a while you guys can find something in common outside of Theta. If not, try to not worry about it. Know that for the rest of your life, Theta can continue to bring you new friendships. I have formed many fabulous, deep friendships with other Thetas since I graduated 12 years ago.

A side note, and I know this will make me sound like an old lady (which some would argue I am), while you are feeling disappointed and sad about this situation, be very conscientious about how and to whom you talk about this situation. It would be easy (and human nature) for the chapter to collectively vent about these two former members. As much as possible, take the high road and help the chapter focus on itself. Move forward as a chapter and focus on the current and future members.

Just curious - did they turn in their badges?

loyally,
Jane