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Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with all of this.
Although my big and little both stayed in the house (well, my lil graduates this springs, so hopefully she'll stick it out), I am not close to either of them. In fact, when I look at all the bigs and little in my house, many of them aren't close. I think that we build up this huge idea in our heads that we are supposed to be extra-tight with these girls, but it's just not so. The big/lil relationship get blown out of proportion sometimes, I think.
On another, non big-lil note, my chapter has struggled with retention for a while, and many girls claim that it's a money issue (funny, since it's really inexpensive to live in our facility, but that's another issue). Many of them didn't want to live in the house and "follow the rules," so they simply dropped out. My pledge class of 35 ended up as a senior class of 5. I hate to say it, but I really didn't keep in touch with the girls who left. In fact, most people didn't. And, on the other hand, I had a great respect for the girls who did stick with it... those are the girls who would probably be my bridesmaids (well, if we didn't decide we are going to elope.)
To make a long post longer...
it's hard to watch the dynamics of the house change, especially in these sort of situations. Good luck, and I'm so sorry you've had to go through all that- I understand how difficult it can be.
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