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Originally posted by James
You know how people adore and admire others for various reasons? Different for different people?
Well you likely had not one single quality that either impressed or distinguished you from the herd to the groups that met you.
I can't see it being any other reason since the majority of rejected PNMs swear their performances were without flaw.
Take it as constructive criticism and move on.
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There's a BIG difference between not having a single quality that disntinguishes you and the fact that maybe your better qualities didn't show through during rush.
Clearly there are a lot of women who go through rush twice or three times and finally get the house they want. It is, in part, a matter of knowing how to play the game. Most freshmen don't understand how the game of rush works.
I rushed a girl this year who was a sophomore and had rushed last year too. We talked about last year's rush experience. She told me. "I wasn't being myself or letting my real personality show through last year, and I got cut hard for it. I've grown a lot since then and I think that I have a much better sense of who I am and I hope the sororities can see that too." Of course I loved her because (1) How many girls have the guts to say that they've rushed before and got cut hard? and (2) it was easy to tell that she was being genuine now. At the end of the week, she ended up in one of the "top" houses on campus that almost never takes sophomores. Apparently they saw the same thing that I did.
Sure, there are girls who are just completely boring and indistinguishable from anyone else and wouldn't really bring a whole lot to your sorority. But more often than not, the rushees that get cut are the ones that realize that rush is a game with its own set of rules and regulations -- but they don't understand the rules. They think the way in is to act and look exactly like everyone else, to not take any risks during rush conversation, to be perfectly polite and sweet and nice but not really all that interesting. Those aren't things that make you stand out to the girl that's rushing you.