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Originally posted by smiley21
i wonder if that was my situation. i was at the pref party for KD colonization. i am trying again in the spring. do i have a better chance or will i be starting the same way as everyone else?
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Depends on your campus.
At some schools (or just with some top-level sororities), rushing as a junior has a certain stigma attached, and some groups won't accept any juniors or seniors. In others, juniors and seniors don't count as part of formal recruitment quota, just total-- so if a group is under total, they could possibly take you without having to switch out a junior for a freshman (who would hopefully be there for four years, gain more experience, and who is sometimes seen as more desirable).
If this is only KD's first or second formal recruitment on that campus, it could certainly help you that you've gone through their recruitment and gotten to know them. On the other hand, if this will be your third time going through, there may be some people who might think "why go through a third time?" and think that there must be some reason you weren't extended a bid yet, and thus be more likely to cut you if numbers are tight.
Without knowing you and knowing the sororities on your campus, it's hard to give advice. Sometimes people say "you'll end up where you were meant to be"-- but that means that sometimes you'll end up *not* getting a bid to join a sorority. It doesn't make someone any more or less of a person. It may be that god/fate/whatever has plans for you, whether it's getting a bid from KD, doing COB with some other organization, or not joining a sorority at all. It might not make sense now, but it'll all work out in the end.
I'm not saying this to discourage you! You *should* go after your dreams with all of your heart and soul, and follow through with your plans. Getting to pref is a huge step-- you don't get asked to pref if they wouldn't want you as a sister-- so that coupled with your determination will probably mean that more of the sisters will recognize you, and you may have more to talk about in the recruitment events.
Remember that you have people in your life who will support you no matter what choices you make and how things turn out.
*hug*